So you have no idea what you're talking about, you have no idea what it's like to play on an official PvE server, and yet you're trying to tell other people that everything's fine. Arguing from a position of ignorance is not only silly, it makes your arguments moot.
Playing on a server with no more than 8 people is radically different from paying on an official server, or even a public unofficial server with a large population. A problem may not affect you, because of your specific circumstances but it's still a problem that affects a lot of other people. Don't tell other people that their problem is fine when you don't know what the experience is like for them.
No, it wasn't "doom and gloom", it was honest, legitimate feedback and valid criticisms of changes that caused more problems than they fixed.
"Slightly more reasonable" can still be unreasonable, just less so. If it's not reasonable then it's still no reasonable, even if it's "more reasonable" than it was before.
Including .ini options only affects private servers, it does nothing for people on Official PvE servers. If you don't play Official PvE servers then you shouldn't be telling people on those servers that the changes are fine for them, that's for them to decide.
A positive step that only occurred because of all that "doom and gloom" you talked about. It doesn't change the fact that WC was planning to make cryopods worse and only did a course correction after lots of people pointed out why it was going to be a bad change. And remember, WC had years of experience with cryopods in ARK-SE, this wasn't some new concept that had never been tried. It should have been obvious to WC that they were on the wrong path without tons of people explaining it to them.
Again, that only helps for private servers. These changes might mean it's not a problem for you or your server, but that doesn't mean it's ok for others.