In the last 3 years since I began playing this game, I have played across dozens of servers, across several game modes, taken breaks from the game, and yet I cannot leave this game behind.
I have recently settled down for the last year on a good official PvP server, where we have a vibrant community across several servers that help and protect each other. There is always the threat of people swinging by and blowing everything up, and dozens have tried.
Our community has made me love this game even more. It is tough just starting out. There are good people on PvP. They sadly are just outclassed by the bad people.
There are good good winners and good losers, bad winners and even worse losers. This game will either lay bare the true human psyche or rekindle your faith in PvP players.
I recommend you keep playing. Get to know the people on ONE server. Stay there and be persistent. If they wipe you, rebuild. Eventually they will see that you are dedicated to sticking around and they will come to accept you. NEVER betray your friends. And finally, just play the game. You will never get anywhere by giving up. Stick with it.