You bought a game called Ark:Survival Evolved.
Human history is about how people learned to cooperate on ever more intricate basis and use said cooperation to achieve what is best in life: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6PQ6335puOc
Modern research bears this out. Practically the entirety of Europe has, as ancestors, the original steppe raiders who invaded bronze-age Europe, killed most of the men and enslaved all women. Or who knows, maybe the women were fine with it due to a massive case of Stockholm syndrome.
Now, this is history, what is real. Evolution in action, humans doing their thing.
You come to play a game called.. 'Survival Evolved', and you complain about being 'forced' to join bigger tribes?
I mean, sure it sucks not being the top guy, and having to ask admins for help, but on the other hand, if you're in some 3 person bob tribe you'll never experience be able to go raid the Chinese every evening, or the sense of camaraderie you can get after pushing an enemy fob off a capped server after a mere 4 hours, and so on and on.
Evolution is a cruel mistress, eESTlane, but evolution has made us what we are.
Evolution, it's not about making people do what they want to do.. it's about making them figure out what they need to do to survive.
Why are you complaining that the game literally called 'Survival Evolved' asks you to step out of your comfort zone?