The way you presented and replied is very nice, thank you first for this. Now, on the other side, you need a plan.. this game is designed to keep you playing for months if not years once you start enjoying it. I learned the hard way, jumping servers and starting fresh on both PVP and PVE, also played on single player and built massive fortresses
However, going to youtube and checking what others made and done, I started to understand more and enjoy more... yes, I did enjoy getting killed many times on PVP and enjoyed trying to tame a dodo on PVE and not be able to do that. Then I made a plan, killing others was not my game, I want the story and fighting bosses with an army so PVE was the answer. So I joined a young (in days) EU PVE server, as I travel a lot around the world I had to get a server with the lowest ping wherever I was, and built as many pillars I can carry and tamed easiest argi i can find and flew around until I found what could be my large future base.
Now one thing you may notice, PVE got more nice people than PVP. However, less space and mostly tame capped. If you stick on that server long enough you will learn when to tame and how to handle the tame cap... my tribe now is tame capped. Many helped me and still do until today, and I would be a very ungrateful person if I didn't return it to them and new players.
So, make a plan (or decision) what you want to do.. if PVP is your thing don't waste your time building your tribe on official server and search for a good tribe that you can join. Playing alone won't get you anywhere in my opinion. Actually, even in PVE you need a tribe, am suffering now as I can't find players who want to join a tribe on PVE and think they can do it solo, and when they discover its not playable solo they simply leave the server or the game entirely