So I ended up just uninstalling again and deleting every ShooterGame file I could find and after reinstalling from there it started working again.
But for the server and admin passwords I had left them blank and named the server '123' but whenever I noticed the command window pop up I closed it right away, realizing it was going to use my computer as a host and I was afraid I wouldn't be able to play at the same time. So that probably corrupted the setting up of the server and made everything worse.
Yes for launching Ark, I would open up steam > Library > Ark > play and not right clicking steam in my task bar. But for giving it more time; Whenever I launched ark, that command window would pop up until it loaded my steam ID and then it would close itself, so im not sure this would have fixed it.